Being a Rule-Setting and Reassuring Parent
We Shouldn't Worry About Our Newborn Babies Regarding This Issue
People sometimes get confused about the level of necessary authority. We certainly do not want to return to a time when discipline was thought to be achieved through severe beatings, as in the old days. But it is also a fact that warnings like "if you pick up the child every time they cry, they will get spoiled" or "they will always want to be held from now on" are still very common. According to this, there is a widespread belief from the past that it is not good to give in too much to our children's demands.Because they do not have thoughts of deceiving you or taking advantage of your weakness. Therefore, you do not need boundaries. But as they begin to become children, babies realize that they can influence the people around them. It is at these times that you need to implement the boundaries you set, both for their own safety and to become a person more adapted to their environment.
How Should We Behave Regarding Authority?
The need for authority is important at this point. But how should we behave regarding authority? According to research findings, "reassuring authoritative parenting," where parents set boundaries but explain these boundaries and reach a compromise with the child, is the best among parenting models. From an educational perspective, children whose parents adopt a rule-setting attitude are observed to be more successful at school. Furthermore, when examined socially, it is noteworthy that these children are more popular and outgoing than their peers at school. Children whose parents follow the "permissive-authoritarian parenting" model are more prone to becoming less liked among their friends, disliking school, and failing in their education. This may be a result of a child losing their self-confidence due to having overly critical parents.
